Question:
Before I put the question forward I would like to provide some background information.
I got married in the year 2000 and I work in the Middle East. After 15 days of my marriage, I left my wife in India and joined my job in the Middle East. Later after few years my wife joined me and now we have a happy family with four kids.
Coming to the question, I was under a heated discussion with my brother where we were arguing about shouldering of responsibilities by us and during this argument I told him that “Just after 15 days of marriage, I left or separated from my wife (in urdu apni biwi ko chor de kar)” went to earn to the middle east and supported the family for many years referring to early years after my marriage i.e., year 2000 and later. I was trying to emphasize on the sacrifice that I did by getting separated from my wife just after marriage and going to earn to support my family (i.e. brothers & sisters). I made this statement in a spur of a moment without any clear intentions, immediately I recognised that the statement
“I left or separated from my wife (in urdu apni biwi ko chor de kar)” can also have the meaning of divorce, therefore immediately afterwards in the same sequence I clarified that “I mean I kept my wife in India and went to middle east”.
Please clarify and explain, does my above statement affect my nikah. I am really very disturbed.
Also, do allusive words of divorce with or without any specific intention, especially when referring to the past as in the above scenario when no divorce had taken place, affect the nikah or cause divorce.
I desperately seek your answer or shariah ruling in this regard.
Answer:
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Divorce did not take place due to you uttering “I left or separated from my wife” without the intention of divorcing your wife.
في البحر الرائق: قوله ( لا تطلق بها إلا بنية أو دلالة الحال ) أي لا تطلق بالكنايات قضاء إلا بإحدى هذين …. ( وبعد أسطر ) …. قيدنا بالقضاء لأنه لا يقع ديانة إلا بالنية ولا عبرة بدلالة الحال ( البحر الرائق: 3/298 )
وفي الدر المختار: فالكنايات لا تطلق بها قضاء إلا بنية أو دلالة الحال، وقال ابن عابدين رحمه الله: (قوله قضاء) قيد به لأنه [لا] يقع ديانة بدون النية [ تنبيه: قد سقط “لا” من نسخة دار المعرفة لكن الصحيح إثباتها كما في النسخ الأخرى وكما في عبارة البحر المذكورة ]، ولو وجدت دلالة الحال فوقوعه بواحد من النية أو دلالة الحال إنما هو في القضاء فقط كما هو صريح البحر وغيره ( رد المحتار: 4/516 ، دار المعرفة)
وفي باب الكنايات من الدر المختار: ونحو اعتدي واستبرئي رحمك، أنت واحدة، أنت حرة، اختاري أمرك بيدك سرحتك، فارقتك لا يحتمل السب والرد، ففي حالة الرضا) أي غير الغضب والمذاكرة (تتوقف الأقسام) الثلاثة تأثيرا (على نية)، وقال ابن عابدين رحمه الله: (قوله سرحتك) من السراح بفتح السين: وهو الإرسال أي أرسلتك لأني طلقتك أو لحاجة لي، وكذا فارقتك لأني طلقتك أو في هذا المنزل. نهر ( رد المحتار: 4/520 ، دار المعرفة)
And Allah Ta’ala knows best
Mufti Faizal Riza
26/8/2013
Checked and approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Mufti Emran Vawda
Darul Ifta Australia
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